1、Love and Marriage爱情可以排除万难，排除之后，又爱情可以排除万难，排除之后，又有万难。有万难。张小娴张小娴“Men always want to be a womans first love-women like to be a mans last romance.”Oscar Wilde What is the love?Different people in different times have different definitions to love.Nowadays,people defined it as:based on certain material co
2、nditions and the common ideal of life,two people in their heart form the most sincere admiration for each other,and eager to become hisher lifelong partner.It is the strongest,most stable and specific feelings.I.The essence of love“L”Loyal（忠诚）Be loyal to your lover,which is essential for the true lo
3、ve.Without loyalty，love would not exist.“O”Observant（用心）It is the bridge of love,which can lead one to the depths of the soul of another.To understand love by your heart,it can make love more solid.忠于你的另一半，这是真正的爱情必不可少的，没有忠诚也不会有爱情.用心是爱情的桥梁，通过它能到达彼此心灵的深处。用心去理解爱情，才会让爱情更加的牢固.“V”Valued（尊重）When you have d
4、ispute in something,you can not impose your own will on himher.You should respect hisher opinion or choice.“E”Excuse（宽容）There is no perfect man in this world，and no one will never make mistakes,forgiving hisher shortcomings and mistakes,which can make love more longer.当你们有分歧时,你不能把自己的意志强加于他她,而应尊重他她的观
5、点,尊重他她的选择.世界上没有完美的人，也没有人永远不会犯错，原谅他她的缺点和错误，可以让爱情更持久.Whats your choice:the one you love or the one loves you?I know it is difficult to choose.Everyone has his own idea about the choice.But I hope everyone can find a man he or she loves,and the man also loves him or her.Debating:College students fallin
6、g in loveThe counterclaim(the Opposition):College love affair will do more harm than good.Arguments:Financial burden;Interfere with the study(time-consuming);Immature thoughts;Uncertrain future;Practical problems(jobs,location,family)Some useful expressions in my opinion.我的意见是.Id like to point out t
7、hat我想指出的是.Personally think.我个人认为.the point is that.关键是.,要点是.in my experience.根据我的经验.but what about.?但关于.方面呢?what mean to say was.我的意思是说.thats a good point.这个看法不错 Im afraid I disagree.恐怕我是持反对意见的 on the contrary.相反的 let me rephrase what I said.让我重申刚才所说的 Friend Often travels from like hidden love strug
8、gle time long Vindicate failure give up Success insist failure end Dating not harmonious Harmonious be boring predisposed toward Feeling good married The chart of love developmentII.The essence of marriage Love each other(相爱)This is the most important in a marriage.And it should include loyalty、resp
9、onsibility and understanding.Live together(共同生活）This is the purpose of marriage.It includes the combination of the spirit,the body and the household.Have baby（延续自己的生命）Having children is a natural development of marriage,and to reject it may lead to cracks to marriage.Three questions about marriage:Q
10、Q1What do you think the romantic and realistic?QQWhat do you think marriage stand for?Whats your view about marriage?What do you think the romantic and realistic?Young people tend to think that real life as dramatic（激动人心）and fascinating（迷人的）as it is in the novels and movies,while more experienced ad
11、ults disregard this opinion.Adults think this kind of naive（天真的）daydream will only be destroyed by later experiences and every one should learn to get used to tedious（适应）everyday life.Whats your view about marriage?Many couples live a happy life because their marriage is based on true love.On the co
12、ntrary,some people marry for money only,and their marriage is destined to be a failure.Marriage based on true love lasts and cannot be easily split up whereas marriage without love does not endure(持续）and may end in divorce.What do you think marriage stand for?1.Marriage stands for some responsibilit
13、ies.If you get married withsomebody,you should be honest to him or her,and not do anything that is not faithful to your love.2.Love is marriages mother,but there are always some poor orphans（单亲）.People marry for different reasons and not only for love.Maybe theymarry for money,for promotion,for repa
14、yment,for parents or someothers orders,and even just for sex.The relationship between love and marriageSome think marriage is the tomb of love.The others think love is a prelude to marriage,marriage is the ultimate goal of loveI think love is the final goal that marriage,if your love is not to marry
15、,its not represent that your love finally results well,I think most of people are married with the intention of it,so I think that love is the process,of course,the purpose of marriage is another new starting point.How do you think about it?Can you describe it briefly?bridebridebridegroom(groom)brid
16、egroom(groom)groomsman(best man)groomsman(best man)bridesmaidbridesmaidwedding ceremonywedding ceremonywedding invitation wedding invitation church weddingchurch weddingtraditional Chinese weddingtraditional Chinese weddingwedding receptionwedding receptionweeding dressweeding dresswedding marchwedd
17、ing marchhoneymoonhoneymoonWedding Vows I ,take you ,to be my wedded wife(husband).To have and to hold,from this day forward,for better,for worse,for richer,for poorer,in sickness or on health,to love and to cherish,till death do us apart.And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.Wedding traditions In
18、 some western countries,brides are supposed to gather something old,something new,something borrowed and something blue,and to carry or wear them on their wedding day as they walk down the aisle.Whats your opinion on the huge cost of a wedding?It is said that the average expenses of Chinese wedding
19、has risen to RMB 120000(including the cost of pre-wedding photos,wedding reception,and honeymoon trip.)Free Discussion How will you plan your own wedding?Between Chineseand Westerners.West China Description of a date;Description of a date;Pretty,cute,smart,humorous.Height,Occupation;Education backgr
20、ound,Family.Love at first sight Time breeds love transient Last long Absolutely personal issue Family background,social relations Marry your match Love Marriage arranged marriage High divorce rate Marriage=responsibilities and duties Independence in economy and All is common.Share everything thought
21、 Total equality Men should handle external matters,while women look after the home Househusband What are your major considerations when you are choosing your wife or husband?And why?Appearance Height Personality Occupation Family Education Other factors.Free Discussion If your parents are strongly o
22、pposed to your marriage with somebody,what will you do?Why will people choose“blind date”?Will it replace“free love”eventually?Why or why not?Do you think love needs testing?Give your reasons?Is romantic love the most important condition for a long and happy marriage?If not,what else?marriageloveAbs
23、ence to love is what wind is to fire.It extinguishes the small;it inflames the great.(Roger de Bussy-Rabutin,French writer)离别之于爱情好比风之于火，它能将小火熄灭，使大火熊熊燃烧。(法国作家比西-拉比旦.R.)Every man is a poet when he is in love.(Plato ancient Creek philosopher)每个恋爱中的人都是诗人。(古希腊哲学家 柏拉图)First love is only a little foolishne
24、ss and a lot of curiosity.(George Bernard Shaw)初恋就是一点点笨拙外加许许多多好奇。(英国剧作家 肖伯纳.G）By all means marry,if you get a good wife,youll be happy,if you get a bad one,youll become a philosopher.(Socrates)不管怎么说还是结婚吧，娶到好老婆，你会幸福；娶到坏女人，你将会成为哲学家。已婚已婚After marriage,husband and wife become two sides of a coin;they ju
25、st cant face each other,but still they stay together.(Hemant Joshi)结婚之后，老公和老婆就成为一枚硬币的两面；他们就是没法面对自己的另一半，却仍然待在一起。已婚已婚Men marry because they are tired,women because they are curious;both are disappointed.(Oscar Wilde)男人结婚，因为他们已经疲倦了；女人结婚，因为她们感到好奇了，结果两人都大失所望。已婚已婚What is the marriage?The formal and public commitmentof two people to spend the rest of their lives together.All shall be well,and Jack shall have Jill.
