1、Sex and You A guide to sexual, physical, emotional and mental health for womenClassroom rules Classroom Rules1. Respect each other! 2. This is a safe space. No ones private information leaves the room!3. Ask questions!4. Unlike my other classes, tonight you CAN speak Chinese if you are confused, and
2、 you CAN use your dictionary. Sexual education in schoolsThis class WILL: 1. Help your learn about how your own body works 2. Teach you the basics about sex, sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy, and physical and emotional health 3. Give you the information to make smart decisions and the con
3、fidence you need to know its your right to make those decisions 4. Answer any specific questions you might have about sex and your bodyThis class WONT: 1. Make you an expert 2. Make decisions about what is right and wrong for you personally 3. Advocate sexual activity as a good idea for everyone in
4、all situationsSo, can we talk about sex now please?Not yet!There are SIX things you need to DO for yourself before you can be in a healthy sexual relationship.OK, I am confused!What do I need to know?Number One: You need to take care of your physical body.Live Happily.Eat Healthy.How do I know what
5、to eat?What is good for my body?Find a balanceEat more:1. Fresh fruits2. Raw vegetables3. Grains, especially whole wheat4. Protein, like tofu5. Milk & yogurt6. Fresh fishStay away from foods like:1. Chips2. Cookies3. Candy4. Soda5. Oils and fats6. Processed foods7. Fast food8. Too much red meat9. Sa
6、lt and MSGDrink lots of water!Try to get 8 servings of water every dayRemember, the food you put in your body affects the quality of your skin, your hair, the strength of your bones, and how healthy you are!Healthy Exercising HabitsAmount of Healthy Exercise (练习) Try to get 30 to 60 minutes of good
7、physical exercise a day. Physical activity can be anything you enjoy! Try dancing with your friends, doing yoga, running, playing sports like basketball or soccer, or going on long walks (at a good speed.) Make physical activity a regular part of your routine, whether its first thing in the morning,
8、 or before you go to bed at night.Have Fun! Choose activities that you enjoy and that you can do regularly. (Dont do something you hate! It wont last.) You dont have to have money to work out! You can work out anywhere: the park, the track, your dorm room, a dance club, or a field outside. Dont feel
9、 like you need to buy a gym membership. Listen to music. Have an exercise buddy who will help encourage you. Work out when you are sad. Scientific studies show that exercise can improve your mood and make you feel more positive!Eating disorders:The UGLY side of being skinnyDonatella Versace, the fam
10、ous fashion designerDonatellas daughter who is now in the hospital for anorexiaMany people are so desperate to lose weight and be skinny that they develop eating disorders (饮食失调), like anorexia or bulimia. Anorexics drastically limit their food intake, to the point of starving themselves. And bulimi
11、cs eat and then throw up. The girls get skinny, but at what cost to their bodies?How skinny is skinny enough?What bulimia can do to healthy, white teethAnorexics can face loss of hair on their heads, loss of teeth, low metabolism, heart attacks, fine hair all over body, premature aging, constipation
12、, blindness, infertility, lack of sexual desire, and more, not to mention DEATH!This is Ana Carolina Reston a model from Brazil. She DIED in December from anorexia. She was only 21 years old! At the time of her death, she was 1.74 meters tall and weighed only 40 kilograms.Would you rather be her. or
13、 her?(The woman in the picture weighs only 48 pounds. That is about 22 kilograms.)Reallywho do you think is happier?Real women can be smart, beautiful, and successful WITHOUT being a size four! If you have a friend who is struggling with her body image ( 外形、体貌形象、形象), make sure you make an effort to
14、tell her she is beautiful just as she is.Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. So, whats the point?Just be yourself, no matter who that is!Also, remember that it is important to get regular physical check-ups with your doctor. You should do this every year, especially once you become sexual
15、ly active, even if you feel healthy. Ok, I know how to keep my body healthy. Whats next? Number Two: You need to take care of your mental health (心理健康)!Happy?Sad?Angry?How do you feel today?Anyone can be sad. NO ONE is happy all the time! Emotions (情感) like this are normal.Its very normal to have da
16、ys where you are very happy and days where you are sad and depressed (抑郁症.) Almost all humans feel this way, regardless of age or sex or race. You should only worry about yourself or a friend if the days of sadness and depression start to outnumber the good days. If you see this pattern in your life
17、, try making some changes, like finding new friends, starting to play a sport, getting a hobby, getting a small pet, devoting yourself to your studies, etc. Talk to your friends about your depression and ask the people you trust for advice.SUICIDE (自杀) PREVENTIONWhat if Im not just a little sad but
18、really sad?Why should we talk about suicide? I dont know anyone who is thinking about committing suicide!Reality check!College years can be depressing for many students as they deal with the pressures of life, finding a job, finding a partner, and learning to be themselves. Many students have suicid
19、al thoughts at this age.How can I tell if someone I know is thinking about committing suicide?Warning Signs Conditions associated with increased risk of suicide Death or terminal illness of relative or friend. Divorce, separation, broken relationship, stress on family. Loss of health (real or imagin
20、ary). Loss of job, home, money, status, self-esteem, personal security. Alcohol or drug abuse. Depression. (Depression that seems to quickly disappear for no apparent reason is cause for concern. It is more a concern if the depression seems to last for long periods of time.)Even the famous actress,
21、Halle Berry, recently admitted she once tried to commit suicide. So, what should I do if I know someone who is suicidal?Give the person help RIGHT AWAY!Never leave them alone.Make sure the suicidal person knows you care about him or her and want to help.Listen to the person! Ask questions and really
22、 listen to the answersGet advice from someone older and more qualified to help the person.Never keep it a secret! Tell someone in a position of authority before its too late!Ok, now we know how to take care of our physical bodies and how to take care of our mental health. Whats next?Number Three: Yo
23、u need to understand your RIGHT to your own body.No person has the right to make decisions about your body but YOU.This means deciding who you are sexually active with, who you allow to touch you, and how you allow them to touch you.The choice is ALWAYS yours, every single time!Consensual sex (双方自愿的
24、性交)vs.Rape (强奸) YOUR body = Your choiceIt is of the utmost importance that you realize no matter how many times youve had sex before, who your partner is, how you are dressed, or how you behave in public or in private, it is ALWAYS your right to say no to sex. No one, not even your husband, can forc
25、e you to have sex. It doesnt matter what they have done for you, bought for you, or said to you. If you say NO, and your partners continues, that is RAPE, and you should seek help from a medical doctor and a legal institution IMMEDIATELY. Remember, you can say NO at any time. It is always your right
26、 to change your mind. It is YOUR body. Never forget that! A partner who loves you will respect your body and will not hurt you.If you or someone you know has been a victim to rape, tryhttp:/www.rainn.org for many resources and helpful links.If you dress like thisYou can still say NO! If you act like
27、 this.You can still say NO!If you love him or he is your boyfriend or even your husbandYou can still say NO! What if.Imagine you have a boyfriend at another college in Chengdu. Last time he came to Chongqing, you had sex. When he comes back again, he expects sex. You tell him you have decided you ar
28、e not ready for it and want to wait. He tells you that is not okay since youve already done it once, and proceeds to have sex with you anyway. Hes your boyfriend, and you love him. Is this sex or rape?Number Four: You need to know that you DESERVE a person who treats you well physically and emotiona
29、lly.What does that mean?1. That means your partner never hurts you physically in any way. (This is called domestic abuse, 家庭虐待 )2. That means that your partner does not try to make you feel stupid or insignificant by saying mean things to you or about you to other people. (This is called verbal abus
30、e or emotional abuse.)Not leaving a physically abusive relationship could mean you might end up like this, or worse!No matter how much you love someone, you should NEVER allow them to hit you. If they hurt you physically, you should leave the relationship while you can. REMEMBER: IT IS NEVER YOUR FA
31、ULT.If your partner doesnt hit you but is verbally insulting you or belittling you, its time to leave.Things wont get better, only worse. Make a decision to keep yourself safe and healthy: LEAVE.Number Five: You need to have other outlets in your life besides your partner.What does that mean?That me
32、ans you have other things you enjoy doing, friends that make you happy, a job you love or a hobby you like, a physical outlet like sports or exercise, and things that are important to you besides your partner. Waiting for Prince Charming?You shouldnt!Why? Because NO ONE can make you happy but YOURSE
33、LF!You should never expect a romantic relationship to solve your problems or make life wonderful! Things are more complicated than that.Number Six: Understand that sexuality is a very personal thing and some people feel differently about it than others.HomosexualityIs homosexuality a disease or some
34、thing people can change?As of 2001, social sciences now say homosexuality is NOT a disease, and China got rid of its laws against homosexuality in 1997. Although there is disagreement, most scientists and biologists say that being gay is NOT a choice. It is part of who that person is genetically, ju
35、st like their height and their hair color.What about gay people in China?It is said now that Chinese gays have moved into a legal and social environment often described as the three nos no approval, no disapproval, and no promotion.As Chinese students, how do you think you would feel if you were gay
36、? Would you want to be accepted? Do you think your friends would still love you? According to researchers, probably 80% of Chinese homosexuals still enter heterosexual marriages to keep their families happy.What are their lives like?Imagine your best friend.Now, imagine he or she told you that they
37、were gay. Would this change how you feel about him or her? Would you want him or her to be able to be happy and be with the person they want? Or marry someone else out of obligation?Alright, we know to keep ourselves safe, healthy, and happy. Now are we ready to have sex? You are NOT ready for sex i
38、f:1. You do not trust your partner.2. Your partner is at all violent, emotionally or physically.3. You do not have protection against pregnancy or STDs, or are embarrassed to go get protection.4. You dont understand the potential consequences of your actions (i.e. pregnancy, diseases, emotional issu
39、es, etc.)5. You cant talk to your partner about diseases or birth control.6. You are not 100% sure you want to have sex.Lets talk about it What would you advise a friend to do if1. She was not ready to have sex and didnt know how to say “no”. ?2. She wants to have sex but is not comfortable talking
40、to her partner about it. ?3. Her partner wont use a condom ?4. She has had sex already but now realizes it was too soon and doesnt want to have sex again ?You ARE ready to have sex if:1. You have a partner you trust who treats you well physically and emotionally.2. You have bought protection against
41、 pregnancy AND sexually transmitted diseases (i.e. condoms and birth control.)3. You understand the potential consequences of your actions and are still willing to have sex.4. You are sure you want to!5. You have given yourself time to think and have talked to someone you trust about your decision.O
42、kay ready to go?Step OneUnderstanding your bodyThe first step is always the hardest.Lets start up top.With the breasts (乳房) Your breasts1.Your breasts start to develop at puberty, around 13 for most girls, but earlier or later is normal.2.The size of a womans breasts have NOTHING to do with how sexu
43、ally active she is. It is genetic, just like how tall she is or what color eyes she has.3.It is normal for women to have breasts that are different sizes and shapes than other women. 4.You may notice your breasts become tender right before your period. If it is not time for your period and you have
44、been sexually active and have sore breasts, you should take a pregnancy test.5.Until you become pregnant or begin nursing your child, you should not notice any fluid coming out of your nipples. If you do, you should see your doctor.You should check your breasts once a month. If you find anything tha
45、t seems suspicious, see a doctor right away!Okay, on to the more complicated stuff!Female Reproductive System子宫阴道肛门子宫阴道卵巢For most girls, periods (月经) begin around age 13, but anywhere from 9-18 is normal. Every month, your ovaries (卵巢)produce one egg (卵子). If the egg is not fertilized, the egg and t
46、he contents of the uterus are flushed out by your body. This is why you have a period.But what about the boys?Male Reproductive System阴茎睾丸 Sperm is what the male contributes to the female egg in order to create a baby. Sperm is released from the penis during ejaculation (射精.)During sexual arousal (e
47、xcitement), blood flows into the penis and makes it hard or erect. You can then say that the man has an erection.During sex, when the man reaches a high level of excitement, ejaculation (射精) occurs. When this happens, the mans sperm enters the womans body.So, sex.means what exactly?1. Masturbation (
48、手淫（自慰）手淫（自慰）) is defined as stimulation of ones own genital organs. 2. Oral sex (口交)is defined as oral stimulation of the penis or the vagina by a partner.3. Sexual intercourse (阴道性交) is defined as intercourse between two humans involving the penetration of the vagina by the penis or the anus by the
49、 penis.But is masturbation (手淫（自慰手淫（自慰) okay?According to some health care providers masturbation allows a healthy way to express & explore your sexuality and to release sexual tension without all the associated risks of sexual intercourse, like diseases and pregnancy. Health professionals generally
50、 agree that this private touching is a natural, normal mode of self-exploration and sexual expression. Want to know more? Check out http:/ So, what about oral sex(口交)? Oral sex is safer than sexual intercourse in that you cannot get pregnant BUT you can still contract STDs through oral sex, includin
