1、 Daily Verbal Communication 2ObjectivesLearn the social functions of compliments and compliments and compliment responsesLearn the differences between Chinese and English complimentsLearn expressions of gratitude and apology in English and Chinese3 CONTENTS I.Warm-up cases II.Detailed Study:Complime
2、nts and compliment responsesSocial functions of complimentsDifferences between Chinese and English complimentsCommon response formulas of English and Chinese complimentsExpressions of gratitude and apology in English and Chinese III.Case Study IV.Summary V.Assignments4Case 1.An Invitation to DinnerI
3、.Warm-up casesQuestion:If you were the director and chosen to mediate this situation,what would you do to ensure not to offend either party?How would you explain Barts behavior to Manual?How would you explain Manuals to Bart?5Case 2.The Cancellation of the Dinner PartyComment:1.In New Zealand,a frie
4、nd can openly provide constructive criticism.If Stan did not make such suggestions to a friend in his country,the friend would be angry that Stan did not help him when he had the chance.2.In Philippines,a person cannot be a friend and a critic at the same time,or at least not in public.Stan should f
5、ind some other way(acceptable to the Filipinos)to voice his comments.6Case 3 Why should they do like this?Comment:1.The British people maintain their etiquette and social manners even when they are very excited.2.The Filipino couple did not introduce their Filipino friend to him 3.The Filipinos were
6、 talking in their own native language.No doubt the British felt left out,which is unacceptable and rarely occurs on social occasions in Britain.4.When immigrants meet in a foreign country,they tend to take no notice of their surroundings/people around,which is considered to be rude and requires atte
7、ntion.7II.ComplimentsA.Compliment and compliment responsesB.Social functions of complimentsC.Differences between Chinese compliments and English compliments(semantic formula and syntactic formula)D.Common response formulas in English and Chinese E.Different cultural assumptions about compliment8Comp
8、liments and compliments responses Fishing for compliments“Growing flowers is my hobby,but Im not much good at it”-“But these flowers are beautiful”“I wish I could do as well!”9Fishing for compliments“I really know little about the subject.”-“Well,I certainly dont know anybody who knows more than you
9、 do!”10Social functions of compliments1.To create or reinforce solidarity2.To greet people3.To express thanks or congratulations4.To encourage aging people5.To soften criticism6.To start a conversation7.To overcome embarrassment11Differences between Chinese and English ComplimentsW:It is common for
10、a man to informally give a woman compliments on her looks or clothingC:It is taken as a kind of flirtation if a man compliments a woman12 Chinese people compliment each other much less frequently than westerners do.Chinese people try to draw a line between compliment and flattery Chinese people inte
11、rpret others positive compliments as a request for possessing something.13The Semantic FormulaEnglish compliments:Adjectives VerbsThis was a great meal.You look so nice today.You did a good job.I like your haircut.I love your glasses.I really enjoyed your class14Chinese complimentsAdjectives adverbs
12、 verbsYour skirt is very pretty.This room is really good.Youre really an experienced teacher.You did the job very well.You treat people sincerely.I especially like the color of your blouse.You deserve being praised.15The Syntactic Formula NP ADJ PRO V ADV OEnglish:NP is/looks really ADJ(53%)Your blo
13、use looks beautiful.You are so efficient.I really like/love NPI really like your hardwood floors.Thats really a beautiful car.16Chinese You V ADV You did the job well.NP is ADJ Your coat is really beautiful.PRO is ADJ NP Thats a wonderful wall calendar.PRO V O You deserve being honored.I like NP I l
14、ike this picture.17Response Formulas of E and C complimentsAmerican English A:This is really a nice sweater.B:Im glad you like it.A:You did a good job.B:Thank you/Thanks.Chinese:A:Your sweater is very good.B:I bought it only for ten yuan.A:You did the job very well.B:Thats the result of joint effort
15、s./Theres still much room for improvement.18 Generally speaking,native English speakers tend to accept the compliments while the Chinese tend to efface themselves in words although they do feel comfortable about the compliments.Sometimes humorous responses could be used when with intimate friends.19
16、Cultural Assumption“Good”refers to ones health,appearance and manner in both E and C cultures“Losing weight”means good in E culture but not good in C culture“putting on weight”can be a compliment to Chinese but offensive to Americans20III.Expressions of gratitude and aplologyThe expressions are far
17、more frequently used in English than in Chinese.Chinese often neglect minor favors especially among friends and members of family.They think the expressions of gratitude and apology unnecessary and even tiresome.21Some special Chinese expressionsIt doesnt matter.没关系没关系 Never mind.不要紧不要紧（responses to
18、 apology）Youre welcome.不用谢不用谢Its my pleasure.没关系没关系（responses to gratitude）22IV.SummaryCompliments and responsesDifferences between Chinese and English complimentsResponse Formulas of E and C complimentsExpressions of gratitude and apology in English and Chinese23 V.Assignments1.Role play 1)The guest compliments the meal 2)Youre at a party with other students from the university.You dont know anybody and youd like to meet a few people and start a conversation.2.Video Watching USA 走遍美国走遍美国
